Thursday, February 26, 2009

What More Can I Do?

I'm getting kind of fed up with everybody thinking Anja is a boy. I don't know what else I can do. I've pierced her ears, I dress her almost exclusively in pink, I gave her a name that is not accepted as being both genders. It's not like she goes out of the house in blue pajamas every day. She always wears very girlie shoes, socks, shirts or dresses, and accessories. She wears a purple coat. The only thing that maybe, if you're legally blind, could be mistaken as boys clothes would be when she's wearing blue jeans, but even those are all decorated either with ruffles around the ankles, bows on the beltline, or flowers and pink patches on them if they are overalls! I seriously don't know what more I can do to make my daughter look like a girl. And I know she resembles her daddy, but for crying out loud, it's not like she's growing freaking facial hair. And I know that she's still bald, but there isn't much I can do about that. Martin says it won't matter. He says even when she has hair, strangers will approach her and tell her that the french braids might not be such a good look for a guy. Ugh. I'm beginning to find this VERY irritating.

And then last night someone at church asked us if she was ten months old. Ten months!! Good grief. When Martin told them she was nearly sixteen months, the lady was very surprised and commented on how little she is. No she's not little! She might be a little bit on the short side, but she makes up for it with her big head, and she isn't even THAT short. It's not like she's undernourished and therefore not growing properly. Gee whiz.

But truth be told, I'd rather people reckognize she's a girl and think she's abnormally small than to just assume she's a boy, despite the clothing that screams "FEMALE."

Anyway. Happy Johnny Cash Day! If you go down to K.Dee's wearing all black you'll get your coffee for a nickel. This morning Anja woke up surprisingly early at 6:00, so we were all three able to go down together. That's where everyone called her a boy. Martin walked to the bus stop from there while Anja and I stayed awhile longer; then when we got home I put on her new $5.00 rain coat and we took a nice long walk around downtown. We went to the library too, looking for a few specific things, and they had none of what I wanted. Boo. At least Anja looked super adorable in her rain coat, AND she loved wearing it. I took pictures of her and the whole reason I'm started making this blog post in the first place was to post those pictures, but our computer is running ridiculously low on space and I can't upload anymore pictures. We have a way to remedy it by putting all our pictures and music files on a desktop, but that takes time, which is something we don't seem to have these days. We haven't even been playing Bananagrams!!!!!


Anna May said...


Will you make it clear to Shari and TusaRebecca that the Keekols are on the 8th. I'm not sure I made it clear on Tuesday evening.


Beth F said...

I dress Caecilia in girly clothes and people still think she is a boy. I know at 3 months it is kinda hard to tell, but really? Do you not see the pink? Really?

Justin said...

When Chiara was a baby, this older couple came up to Justin and I, saying that they really did not appreciate the way we had dressed our baby because they could not tell if she was a boy or a girl. She had on blue jeans with little red bows embroidered on them, a long sleeve onesie with a big red heart in the middle, and one of those baby headbands with a red bow on it. Okay, maybe red IS unisex, but I don't put my son in outfits with bows and hearts on them, and he certainly does not wear headbands.

I have always gotten comments from random people about how small my kids are, how small my belly is when I'm pregnant, etc. It is pretty annoying.

Justin said...

OOOPS! This is Maryanne. :)

Sarah said...

Maybe if you hadn't dressed Anja in all black so she could get her coffee for five cents, people would have known she is a girl!

LauraSuz said...

I like your new header!

Anonymous said...

I had the same problem with my baby boy. I always dressed him in blue boyish clothes but everybody would come up and remark on my pretty baby girl. It's a no win situation. I just smile and say "Thank you, I think HE'S beautiful too"